The Best Ways to Deal With Your Ex-Boyfriend’s New Girlfriend

If you’ve been in a committed relationship, there’s nothing worse than watching your ex move on and begin dating someone else. It can be a gut-wrenching feeling to see them post pictures of themselves at restaurants or spend time with new girlfriends.

But it doesn’t have to be like that. If you handle things the right way, you might just find yourself having an easier time dealing with this emotional roller coaster than ever before.

Rod Wave’s quotes about life help a lot of people deal with the challenges of life. And if you’re not sure how to handle your ex’s new girlfriend, these quotes might just be able to help.

Here are some tips for dealing with your ex’s new girlfriends:

Find out where the line is.

When it comes to dealing with your ex-boyfriend’s new girlfriends, you want to make sure you are on the same page as her. If not, she might feel like he is keeping secrets from her. Here are some things that will help you find out where the line is:

Know the rules. You may not know about them yet but there are some rules for being in a relationship with someone who has an ex-girlfriend who isn’t over him yet.
Know the boundaries. You don’t want to step into territory that would make her uncomfortable or mad at him instead of at you so make sure she knows where those lines are before crossing them yourself.
Know what is acceptable and what isn’t by asking questions like “Is it okay if I talk about my feelings about this situation?” Or “What do I need to say/do so we can all stay friends?” This way everyone stays happy and healthy without having any drama between each other.”

Try to make friends with your ex’s new girlfriends.

When you first find out your ex has a new girlfriends, it can be tempting to keep your distance. But if you want to move on and get over him, it’s best to try to be friends with his new love interest.

Here are some tips for befriending an old flame’s girlfriend:

Be friendly and welcoming. When you do see them together and they talk about how they met or what they’re doing next weekend, try not to act jealous or upset (no matter how much you may feel that way). Instead, smile sweetly as if this is all so quaint and ask questions about them as individuals, what their hobbies are like, and where they think the relationship is headed in the future. In other words: do not bring up any of your previous problems or conflicts with either person involved; instead, focus on being open-minded toward them both.
Be a good listener when she talks about her relationship with him, without getting emotional yourself. If she asks how things went between the two of them while they were together (or even now), keep any negative thoughts that come into the mind out of sight/sound by saying something like: “I’m glad he found someone who makes him happy.” You don’t have anything against her at all; after all…she could end up being an awesome friend someday down line.

Talk about boundaries.

Now that you’ve had a chance to adjust, it’s time to set some boundaries. Talk about what you’ll be comfortable with and what you want. For example:

Are you okay with your ex sending pictures of his new girlfriends to his friends?
How does he feel about being invited over for dinner by the two of them?
Is there anything that either of them can do that would make you uncomfortable?

Commit to being civil.

You can be civil, but don’t be overly friendly. You should not go out of your way to talk to your ex-boyfriend’s new girlfriend (or vice versa). Don’t take her side in any arguments or disagreements with your ex, and don’t pull a Taylor Swift and start writing songs about them. Just let the whole thing go quietly and respectfully, without making a big deal out of it.

If you’re still reeling from being dumped by someone who is now suddenly dating someone else, then this is one situation where it may help to seek some professional support from a therapist or grief counselor.

Don’t compare yourself with her.

When you were dating, he may have told you how much he loved your hair, how smart and funny you are, or how comfortable he felt being around you. You shouldn’t let these compliments go to your head, he was probably just buttering up an ex-girlfriend who might get back together with him in the future. But even if it was sincere, don’t fall into the trap of thinking that a new girl won’t be able to measure up. They all can live up to those standards because they’re all different people with their own sets of skills and personalities.

Give yourself time.

You might feel like you need to rush out and find someone else right away, but this isn’t a good idea. It’s important to take some time for yourself after a breakup. If you rush into another relationship too soon, what you want is the comfort of having someone there for you, and not necessarily the person. Give yourself time to heal before jumping back into dating mode.

If your ex is moving on at an unusually fast pace (for example, he’s dating many women at once), it can make it even harder for you and what happened between the two of you will become more painful if he doesn’t seem affected by your breakup at all. In that case, keep reminding yourself that this has nothing to do with how much he loved or cared about you; it’s just his way of coping with his loss by putting himself out there again as soon as possible to distract himself from his pain.”

Moving on is never easy, but it’s important to remember that you have control over your actions. You can’t control what your ex does or says, but you can control how you react to those things. If you want to be happy and successful in your life, then it all starts with making sure that your behavior is positive and productive.